In today’s hyper competitive world, it can be hard to remain self-confident.
Especially if you’re always looking at everyone else and comparing yourself to the people around you.
When you see your peers with their high salaries and loving relationships it can make you start to question yourself. Why is your life not like that?
Why are you so different?
These comparisons can really get to people. And if we’re not careful we may start to form negative opinions of ourselves. Which leads to low self-esteem and poor self- confidence.
But how do you fix this?
The first step to self-confidence
The first step to self-confidence is to stop constantly comparing yourself to other people.
Obviously, there are going to be people who are better off than you are. But the good news is that there is always someone worse off as well.
You’re never going to be a truly happy person if you constantly compare yourself.
Sure, you may not have as much money, or as many vehicles, but that’s okay. Those things aren’t what you should strive for.
You should strive for inner peace instead.
Be content but willing to improve.
Not everyone is going to be a millionaire. And that’s okay.
Money isn’t everything.
Status isn’t everything.
To have self- confidence we need to accept that and look at the bigger picture.
To be self-confident we need to accept who we are and where we are in life.
Stop focusing on all the things you want and start appreciating what you already have.
It’s good to have goals and aspirations. But if all you do is focus on things you wish were different, you will not be able to ever be happy in the present.
Love yourself for who you are.
To be self-confident, you need to truly love yourself. Not the person you want to be. But the person you already are
Comparison is the thief of joy
The saying is true. Comparison truly is the thief of joy.
So, let’s stop doing it so much.
Sure, it can be a force for good given the right context. But more often than not when we compare ourselves to others it leads to us feeling worse about ourselves.
That doesn’t fix anything. It just deteriorates our mental health.
Perfection isn’t real.
Having high expectations of yourself can be a good thing. But we need to remember that perfection is not real.
Nothing will ever be exactly as we want it to be.
We are flawed. But that’s what makes us human.
Our situations may not be the best, but our mindset can help a lot.
Conclusion
Self- confidence is lacking for a lot of people for a lot of reasons. But I have a feeling that if we took a step back for a minute to access the situation, we would see that most of the time it isn’t really as bad as we think it is.
A lack of self-confidence often means a lack of self-compassion.
We need to be realistic.
No one is perfect. Not even the people we compare ourselves to.
We’re all just trying to find our way in the world. And every time we compare ourselves to others or expect perfection from ourselves, we are just making things way harder for ourselves than they need to be.